First call
Online dating — talking to a woman for the first time
The first big step in moving from an online relationship to one in the real world is talking on the phone for the first time. As a man, you’ll probably be ready to take that step before your online match is. With good reason, women approach online dating a bit more cautiously than men do. Your best chance to talk with her on the phone — and eventually meet her — is to let things move forward at a pace she feels comfortable with. Be willing to take it slow and let her sit in the driver’s seat. When you want to talk on the phone, simply let her know you’re willing to get her number from the agency whenever she’s ready for your first call.
Conversation topics
Before your online match calls you, review her profile and your correspondence with her. Use what you find there to come up with a few conversation topics. Write down four or five friendly questions you could ask her on the first phone call. If the conversation drags or you get a little flustered, you can use one of your questions to help get things back on track.
Send an email after your first phone call
If your first phone call went well, send her a short email before you go to bed saying you enjoyed talking with her. She’ll definitely appreciate it. This message accomplishes several things:
- It lets her know you’re still interested in getting to know her.
- As far as the next communication goes, it puts the ball in her court.
- Her response will give you a sense of how interested she is.
- It’s the best way to help move the relationship forward without looking pushy.
Talking on the phone for the first time with your online match is a big step toward meeting her in person. Making sure she feels comfortable is the key to a successful first phone call.